As Halloween approaches, many parents are faced with a unique dilemma—how to navigate the world of “sexy” costumes that seem to pop-up in every store, even for kids. Suddenly, a fun holiday full of pumpkins, ghosts, and goblins becomes a more complex situation. This is a prime teachable moment to have an open and honest conversation with your child about what “sexy” means, and how they can love their bodies without feeling pressured to show it off.

Why This Conversation Matters

The word “sexy” is everywhere—in music, movies, advertisements, and even in Halloween costumes. It’s a word that’s often misunderstood, especially by kids. They might hear it and wonder, “What does that even mean?” Instead of avoiding the topic or brushing it off, use this curiosity to your advantage.

When we talk to our kids about the word “sexy,” we’re not just explaining a word. We’re teaching...

Is there a wrong way to talk to your kids about sex?

There are five things that parents do wrong all the time, and I don't want you making these same mistakes. Are you fully confident that when your child has questions about their body changes or how bodies come together, that they will actually come to you with their questions about sex? Did you know that there are really five things that parents do wrong all the time when they're having the talk with their child? What do you imagine that they might be? 

I’d like to begin with a quick story as I actually remember one of the first questions I had about sex. I didn’t ask a parent though, I asked my oldest sister...I was about 5 years old, we were in the car, and I asked the most popular sex question, “Susie, where do babies come from”? Her reply, “Honey, I think we need to talk about that when you are a little bit older.” I may have been young and I know she thought so and maybe she...